Should You Fix Your Relationship on Valentine's Day?

Is Valentine’s Day the best time to fix your relationship? Expectation often meets reality in a messy way.

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Flowers and candy don't erase deep-seated issues. A nice dinner doesn't automatically mean "everything is good now.

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Expert David Morris suggests delaying the celebration. Why force a romantic night when you need a week to talk?

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We often love others the way we want to be loved. Stop assuming and start asking: "How do you feel cared for?

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Lower your expectations to avoid disappointment. Use "soft openings"—state what’s happening without shifting into blame.

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Movies solve problems in 90 minutes; real life doesn't. One date won't fix everything, and that’s okay.

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Don't let the calendar dictate your progress. Build a solid foundation first, then celebrate your love on your own terms.

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